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In Princess and the Goblin, George MacDonald shares a beautiful story of a grandmother who deeply loves her granddaughter. Wishing her granddaughter to walk in courage and confidence in a world of fears and goblins, the grandmother gives a ring to her granddaughter. This ring has a small yet strong string attached to it. She is given simple instructions: Whenever she is in need, simply follow the thread and it will lead her to her grandmother.

The granddaughter is awestruck by the provision of this small gift. But this simple promise has one clear caveat, “Yes. But, remember, it may seem to you a very roundabout way indeed, and you must not doubt the thread. Of one thing you may be sure, that while you hold it, I hold it too.”1

This thread connected the two individuals with a promise of protection. As the story progresses, the granddaughter is in desperate need of her grandmother. She pulls the thread, exits her room, and where she assumes the thread will take her up the stairs to her grandmother’s room, it does the opposite.

Down the stairs, out the castle, into the fields, through the woods, over hills, under bridges, the thread seemed to lead away from the loving arms of her grandmother, not toward them. The small string finally leads her to the side of a mountain and disappears into a pile of rubble. She turns around to return from where she came only to discover the string had vanished. The only way forward was through solid rock. Confused, lost, and without hope, the princess did the only thing she knew to do: she cried.

This is what it is like to follow God.

The journey with Jesus at first can feel like the loving embrace of a grandmother to her granddaughter. Early in our walk we assume that life with Jesus will somehow be easy. We figure that our paths will be smooth, the road cleared before us, and our pursuits successful.

Then we actually journey with Jesus and are confronted with reality. Walking with Jesus can feel like following a thread through unknown territory only to be confronted with confusion when the pathway ends abruptly.

This moment in our journey is called “disorientation.” Although often unwanted, it is actually the most natural path for the believer to be on. It is a critical part of our sanctification process.

How?

All of us have ways we see God, ourselves, and others. We have a way we “orient” ourselves to the world around us. This is how we operate and make sense of life. Without a base of orientation, we would be like astronauts in zero gravity, trying to figure out which way is up. Our basic need for order and to operate demands a level or orientation.

And for the most part, we like the way we’re oriented to the world. It is a comfortable space, even though the way we see God, ourselves, and others is never fully correct. We are familiar with this posture, so we embrace it as normal.

But God sees differently. He sees right-side up. So, in love, God takes his children on a journey to disorient them from their false views of himself, themselves, and others. This process is painful, confusing, and feels never ending. And yet, what feels roundabout is actually the fastest way back home. Like the granddaughter with the string, we are called to hold fast to God and his promises continually as he holds fast to us. In time, God reorients our lives so that we see him, ourselves, and others more truly and live lives more fully.

This is the threefold cycle of orientation, disorientation, and reorientation we see in the Joseph narrative in the Genesis scroll (Gen 37-50).

We meet Joseph when he is fully oriented to how he views the world. He is the favorite son of his father. He is privileged above his brothers. He is even given dreams that declare his future exalted status. One day, Joseph would be prince over the greatest power in the day: Egypt. So how do you go from privileged to being a prince? Most would think Joseph was on an upwards journey with his road paved for him.

Then, the disorientation begins.

Fed up with Joseph, his brothers devise a plan to kill him. After a quick intervention by Reuben (the eldest), full blown murder is downgraded to a brutal beating, a holding pit, and captivity to merchants on their way to Egypt. Any hope of an “upward and to the right” easy life died in that pit.

We next meet Joseph in Potiphar’s house, an upgrade from the pit for sure. Things seem to be picking up for Joseph. Not the privileged life he was used to, but as a slave he is promoted to run the affairs of the household and experiences a level of freedom and status. Maybe the pit was just a mild setback in his journey?

Nope. The disorientation is still underway. Joseph, a handsome man, is then tempted by Potiphar’s wife. Wishing to have sex with him, she throws herself at him day after day. Joseph resists. He passes the test. His reward? To be wrongfully accused of attempted rape and then thrown in prison.

Joseph was promised privilege and status, and now he finds himself in prison for a crime he did not commit. Years pass. Disorientation settles deeper, the thread of a past dream vanishing behind him.

Then, two of his prison mates wake up startled next to him. Nightmares? No. Visions. And there Joseph is, “the dreamer,” as his brothers used to mock him. Listening to the dreams, Joseph tells the men their fate. One would be freed, one would be killed. To the one freed, Joseph makes a simple request, “But when all goes well with you, remember me and show me kindness; mention me to Pharaoh and get me out of this prison” (Gen 40:14).

Days pass. Then weeks. Then months. Then years. Nothing. Joseph is a forgotten man. Alone and disoriented. The string vanished behind a wall of stone.

Then, Pharaoh had a dream. No. A vision.

The grand reorientation begins. Joseph’s forgetful prison mate just so happened to be cupbearer to the king. The cupbearer finally comes through on his promise and tells Pharaoh of “the dreamer” who could interpret dreams. Joseph, a forgotten prisoner, now stands before the King of Egypt, interpreting his dream.

Joseph has every option to take credit for the interpretation of the dream. Yet he doesn’t. The reader is beginning to see what God has been developing in Joseph. He is a changed man, no longer boasting in his vision, but boasting in Yahweh, who grants the grace for him to interpret the vision.

Joseph is taken from the lowest of low to the highest of high. He is exalted from prisoner to prince.

So how do you take someone from a position of privilege to prince? According to God, the fastest route is through a pit, Potiphar’s house, and prison. Why? Because God is more interested in what he is doing in you than what you will do for him.

Any privileged brat can be a prince. But God doesn’t want a position to be filled; he desires a person to be shaped and molded. Through Joseph’s journey, God was making him a certain type of person. He was dislodging false views he had about God, himself, and others so that when God fulfilled his prophetic promise to Joseph, Joseph would not just lead, but be the type of leader God desired him to be.

Throughout the rest of the story, we see just how far Joseph has come in his journey. Given the opportunity to steward the resources of a nation, he acts in wisdom. Given the opportunity to destroy his family who betrayed him, he saves his family. Given the opportunity to condemn his brothers, Joseph forgives his brothers.

As Joseph reflected on his journey, the ups and downs, the brutality of the pit, the wrongful accusations, being forgotten in a prison cell for years, he came to two conclusions: 1) He is not God, and 2) God is good.

“But Joseph said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives’” (Gen 50:19-20).

These two realities were only accomplished through a lengthy, lifelong process of orientation, disorientation, and reorientation. However hard, this process made “the dreamer” into “the leader” God would use to save many. 

Joseph acts as a picture of our own disorientation process. Although few reading this will go through a pit in order to be a prince, all will experience unexpected turns in our journey with Jesus. These moments are hard, painful, and confusing. We, like the young princess who followed the thread to a dead end, can be tempted to give up, grow weary, and lose heart. And yet our great hope is a God who makes pathways out of dead ends (Hos 2:15).

Joseph is merely a shadow of Christ. He was the true beloved son, brutally treated by his brothers, wrongfully accused, forgotten in a grave, only to be raised to life and exalted above all. He faced the true dead end, buried in a grave. But his story did not end there. 

As the young princess sat at the end of the thread in tears, she decided to pull on the string. In a moment, the rubble began to crumble around her. When the dust cleared, she saw a dear friend. Unbeknownst to her, he had been placed deep in a prison for a crime he did not commit. Now free, they both follow the string that leads them back safely into the grandmother’s arms. It turns out, the most roundabout path was the fastest way home.

The path of the believer is not a straight shot to glory. It is full of ups and downs, pits and palaces. Yet, however strange the path may be, we hold onto Christ and his promises. When we do, we will realize he is holding onto us.

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Notes

  1. George MacDonald, Princess and the Goblin (United Kingdom: 1872).

About the Author

Derek Mathews lives in North Dallas with his wife, Mikaela, and two boys, Judah and Bennett. A former teaching pastor, he is now the founder of Storyline Project, helping people fall more in love with Jesus by seeing him through the storyline of Scripture. Throughout his nearly two decades in vocational ministry, his primary focus has been on teaching and training others in God’s word in order for them to experience and embrace the love of God for them. God has shaped Derek through godly mentors, his time at DTS pursuing his Masters in Theology, participation and leading in Institute programs, and a variety of moments of joy and hardships to instill in him a greater joy in the God who is. On a typical weekend, you can find Derek enjoying a good story, nerding out on some movie, woodworking, or being out in nature with his family.

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The Essence of God

I have had twelve years of formal theological training. For the vast majority of those years, I considered the love of God as a moral characteristic, or attribute that God possessed, which meant my starting point was elsewhere, typically within the Greek categories of omnipotence or omniscience. As time went on, I increasingly felt the tension of something being not quite right, like a hand going numb, or a dull, persistent pain. As I moved deeper into an understanding of God’s love, both cognitively and experientially, I began to recognize that placing the love of God anywhere other than the center resulted in skewed views of God, myself, others, and the world we live in.

Yet, regardless of how often or creatively we try, the love of God cannot be reduced down to a secondary attribute, or characteristic he possesses. That would be like trying to take the wetness out of water, or to have air without nitrogen and oxygen. Good luck with that. “Agape [love] does not refer to some supererogatory (more than what is required) ethical ‘extra’ attributed either to the humanity of Christ or to the divinity of God. It constitutes an ontological category . . . the argument of John is that it denotes the being, the ousia, the essentia (essence) of God . . .”1 In fact, the self-giving, others-focused essence of God is what allows us to refer to God at all, for if God’s ousia was not love we would not even exist and the deity would be stuck in a self-focused narcissism capable only of destruction, not creation (C. S. Lewis’s Jadis, the last Queen of Charn in The Magician’s Nephew is a good example of this). God’s essence is what enables us not only to exist in the first place, but also to know (ginosko) the love of God.2

Not only are we able to know the love of God, Scripture also makes it clear how we can recognize the real thing in a world of counterfeits. First John 3:16 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.” If we are to know what real love is, we must begin with the cross, for there is found the fullest demonstration of love. Jesus’ crucifixion stands as the greatest example of love not because he is a martyr for a cause or a stand-in for a family member or friend. He is giving his life for his enemies. As the Roman executioners drove the spikes into his flesh he cried out, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Lk 23:34). The quality and type of love that is God’s looks like Jesus laying down his very life for the people who would steal it from him, not just the Jewish leaders or the Roman prefect but all of humanity. Paul argues in Romans 5 that Jesus died for us “while we were enemies” as an ongoing demonstration of the love of God in the present (Rom 5:8,10). I often hear people translate Romans 5:8: “God demonstrated (past tense) his love . . .” This is wrong. Sunistemi (to demonstrate, or “to provide evidence of a personal characteristic or claim through action” BDAG) in Romans 5:8 is a present tense verb that refers to a past event . . . this past event is a constant demonstration in the present. As my friend Dan Wallace said, “We can know that God loves us now because of what Christ did for us then . . . the notion that we need to sense God’s love demonstrated to us every day or we should begin to doubt it is utterly annihilated by Romans 5:8. God’s love is demonstrated now by what Christ did then . . .”3 

God did not just love us in one moment in the past. To borrow language from The Jesus Storybook Bible: God’s persistent, “never stopping, never giving up, unbreaking, always and forever love” was not accomplished on the cross, it accomplished the cross. The infinite love of God is the ontological reality that motivated Jesus to “set his face toward Jerusalem” (Lk 9:51, ESV).4 Indeed, it was the very reason Jesus was born, something the Chalcedonian Creed gives us a glimpse into: “for us and for our salvation.” Jesus’ sacrifice was a totally unique expression of God’s eternally constant love, one the specific historical situation required, and one that continues to demonstrate God’s love for us every day.

God’s love, which is so far removed from today’s completely bankrupt prevailing opinions on the subject, cannot be relegated down to preference or opinion, and it definitely can’t be reduced to mere sentimentality. While emotions can and should flow from love, love is not primarily an emotion. Interestingly, when emotion drives love instead of the other way around, it destroys love and then destroys itself. Emotion serves us well as an indicator of our interior lives, but it is a horrible master. On the contrary, real love is persistent, others-focused selflessness born out of the desire for the greatest good of the object.5 God is love, the real kind of love. The selfless kind of love revealed in Jesus, which “constitutes the essential ground of our affirming agape of God. This means that to affirm that God is agape is to affirm that God is what God is toward us in Christ . . .”6

The self-giving essence of God is seen in the relationship between the Father and the Son. The Father hands over “all things” (Matt 11:27, 28:18, Lk 10:22, Jn 5:22, 13:3, Eph 1:22, Heb 1:2) to the Son, who reconciles “all things” (Col 1:20), then gives the kingdom back to the Father, having subjected “every rule and every authority and power” (1 Cor 15:24, ESV).7 This love between Father and Son is so dynamic it cannot help but proceed from the selfless bond they share, and there has never been a time it has not proceeded from the Father and the Son.

This all-embracing love, which epitomizes the relationship between the Father and the Son, is a divine person, coequal with the Father and the Son. It has a personal name. It is called the Holy Spirit. The Father loves the Son and pours himself out in the Son. The Son is loved by the Father and returns all he is to the Father. The Spirit is love itself, eternally embracing the Father and the Son.8 If we are to understand not only who God is but what he is like, we must begin with the essence and nature of the triune Godhead, and before all communicable and incommunicable attributes of God we must affirm first and foremost the love between the Father and Son, who embraces and proceeds from them.9 If God has always been a loving Father begetting the Son, and if the Son has always loved the Father in joyful obedience, and if the Spirit has always proceeded from the unity of the Father and Son, energizing and binding together, then we must affirm this flawless, others-focused, self-giving unity is the essence of God. “God is love” is the sine qua non (lit. “without which, not,” or essence) of all true theology.10

Notes

  1. Alan J. Torrence, “Is Love the Essence of God?” in Nothing Greater, Nothing Better: Theological Essays on the Love of God, edited by Kevin J. Vanhoozer, 114-137 (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2001), 131. Aquinas wrote: “The being of God in his will by way of love is not an accidental one–as it is in us–but is essential being.” Thomas Aquinas, Summa Contra Gentiles, Book 4: Salvation, translated by Charles J. O’Neil (Notre Dame: University of Notre Dame Press, 1975), 118 (emphasis mine). See also Reeves, Delighting in the Trinity, (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2012), 23, 41.
  2. Torrence, “Is Love the Essence of God?”, 137.
  3. Daniel B. Wallace, “An Excruciating Gift,” DTS Chapel Podcast (MP3 podcast), February 14, 2019, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/an-excruciating-gift/id90696516?i=1000430207573.
  4. Steridzo (to be inwardly firm or committed) here has a sense of purpose or determination. It paints the image of someone clenching his jaw and narrowing his eyes, focused on accomplishing something difficult. A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament and other Early Christian Literature, ed. Frederick Danker, (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2000), 768.
  5. Paul describes love as patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, not dishonoring, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeping no record of wrongs, not delighting in evil, rejoicing with the truth, protecting, trusting, hoping, persevering. 1 Cor 13:4-7. This is what God’s love looks like.
  6. Torrence, “Is Love the Essence of God?”, 131; Daniel D. Williams, The Spirit and Forms of Love (New York: Harper & Row, 1968), 155; Gerald Bray, God Is Love, (Wheaton: Crossway, 2012), 107.
  7. J. Scott Horrell, “Persons’ Divine and Human: The Concept of Person in and Beyond Nicaea for Today” (paper presented at the annual meeting of the Evangelical Theological Society, Denver, CO, November 14, 2018), 16.
  8. Henri J. M. Nouwen, Making All Things New: An Invitation to the Spiritual Life (New York: HarperCollins, 1981), 49 (emphasis mine). “Necessarily, therefore, does the love by which God is in the divine will as a beloved in a lover proceed both from the Word of God and from the God whose Word He is.” Aquinas, Summa Contra Gentiles, 118.
  9. “If the fundamental principle of our theology is that God is love, then we must start with the divine persons and not with the unity of God’s being. The concept of love implies that there must be someone or something to be loved.” Bray, God Is Love, 107.
  10. “John’s declaration, when all is said and done, is the most fundamental of all ‘articles of faith.’” Anthony J. Kelly, God Is Love: The Heart of the Christian Faith (Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press, 2012), 1.

About the Author

Nathan Wagnon is the Co-Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Eden Project, a non-profit organization dedicated to retraining people to connect deeply with God, self, and others. Nathan received his BA in Biblical Studies from Ouachita Baptist University (2001), and his ThM from Dallas Theological Seminary in New Testament Studies (2006).

Following seminary, he joined the U.S. Army as an infantryman and deployed twice to Afghanistan in support of Operation Enduring Freedom (OEF X, XII). During his time in the military, he co-authored a mentoring book for young men titled Checkpoints: A Tactical Guide to Manhood (NavPress).

In 2013 Nathan moved his growing family back to Dallas and joined the staff of Watermark Community Church as the Director of Equipping & Apologetics. During his time at Watermark, Nathan earned his Doctor of Ministry (Discipleship) degree from Talbot School of Theology, Biola University, focusing on how people emotionally experience God, and how that unique relational dynamic either encourages or suppresses spiritual formation. After 9 years of vocational ministry, he transitioned off Watermark’s staff to start Eden Project in 2022.

Nathan is married to his wife, Margaret. They have four children: Nate, Miles, Jules, and Joy.
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Because we are loved by God, we cultivate environments conducive to deep and meaningful relationships.

 

“Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well.” 

 

We have been created as embodied beings with an innate capacity for relationship. Because emotion is the language of relationship, we champion the courage required to examine our emotion and the honesty and vulnerability necessary to admit what is true about ourselves in the presence of God and others. As our emotional quotient grows, our capacity for relationship deepens and enables us to create spacious environments for others to experience deeper relationships themselves. The more we have of ourselves, the more we are able to give to others, and vice versa. This relational flourishing bears witness of the reality of the kingdom of God in a relationally fractured, isolated world. We reject any desire or attempt to live out of an artificial, false self, and work hard to maintain and grow authentic environments with meaningful relationships.

Holy Restraint

Because we are loved by God, we sit in unresolved tension with others, curious about how God is at work for our good in his time and his way.

“Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.”

Because we are settled in the joy that comes from experiencing an identity as God’s beloved with an integrous life, we are naturally able to sit with others in the unresolved tensions of their lives. We reject any attempt to fix others apart from the leading and empowerment of the Spirit. Rather, we patiently wait with others, continually pointing them to the presence and work of God in their lives. This allows us to be relationally present, instead of pushing an agenda on God and others to behave in ways we assume is right. We reject any attempt to coerce transformation or “hurry” someone along in their journey toward maturity, instead holding a posture of dependence on God in the lives of others.